As Mediators we often hear parents say: "I'm worried about the kids".
Separation and divorce elicit a rollercoaster of strong emotions from, anger, a sense of loss, profound grief to relief. Children can react very differently to separation and divorce and their coping skills will depend on the the age of the child and the degree of conflict between the parents. It is these experiences of childhood that will continue to influence in later life.
As knowledge is power, we have compiled a list of trusted resources containing information and support services,to help you and your child get through this challenging time.
There is a section focused on your needs as a parent and a section focused on the needs of your children.
Resources for Parents:
- Lifeline – 24 hour crisis counselling – 13 11 14
- Domestic Violence Line – 24 hour counselling support - 1800 656 463
- MensLine Australia - 24 x 7 counselling and support - 1300 78 99 78
- Marriage, Families and Separation: This brochure provides information for people either considering or affected by separation or divorce - the social and legal effects of separation, services provided to families by the Family Court of Australia and various agencies, and some of the steps involved in court proceedings. http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/1249df7a-9ff2-4806-9859-de50b250b221/BRMFS_0313V5
- Safe from Violence: A Guide for Women Following Separation – http://www.relationships.org.au/relationship-advice/publications/pdfs/safefromviolence.pdf
- Australian Men and Separation Booklet: http://www.mensline.org.au/Uploads/MensLine_Web_Men_and_Separation.pdf
- Parent's guide to child support - Australian Government Department of Human Services - https://www.humanservices.gov.au/customer/subjects/parents-guide-child-support
- Family Law Courts Information about Property and Money Matters – http://www.familylawcourts.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/FLC/Home/Property+and+Money+Matters tent/uploads/2013/11/a-guide-for-teens.pdf
- Changing Families: A Guide for Kids and Grown-Ups: David Fassler https://www.amazon.com/Changing-Families-Guide-Kids-Grown-Ups
- How your Children’s Ages affect your Parenting Arrangements [Fact Sheet]
Resources for Kids:
- Kids Helpline – 24 hour counselling support - 1800 55 1800 Kids Helpline is a free, private and confidential, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged between 5 and 25. https://kidshelpline.com.au
- eheadspace - eheadspace is a confidential, free and secure space where young people 12 - 25 or their family can chat, email or speak on the phone with a qualified youth mental health professional. www.eheadspace.org.au
- What about the Children? – Issues parents need to be aware of when considering their children's needs during the separation process. http://www.relationships.org.au/relationship-advice/publications/pdfs/what-about-the-children.pdf
- Children and Separation - http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/parenting/children-and-separation
- A Guide for Teenagers - www.stolaw.com.au/news/wp-con
- Sheet] https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/sites/www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/files/vla-how-your-childrens-ages-affect-your.pdf
- Parenting Plan Guide http://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/BrochuresandPublications/Pages/parentingplanguide.aspx#section4